On a daily basis, we’re consistently presented with modern distractions that are so influential, meaningful values are replaced with trivial desires. People have become overly concerned with their image to the degree where life has become a stage, we’re the audience, and everyday is a performance.
No one is watching your every move and hanging onto every word like you think they are. If someone IS watching, that reasoning is most likely selfish in nature.
Why do you think you’re so important? Are others that important to you? I don’t think so. People are more self-absorbed and needy than ever before. A minor inconvenience is catastrophic. A perceived failure has suddenly become the only means to measure self-worth.
Life is becoming this thing we’re unconsciously seeking to escape through chasing validation of our identity or anything that makes us feel alive. It’s fleeting, shallow, and trivial.
Evidence of success is measured by what you’ve done or what you have and it’s important. Image doesn’t just matter it determines identity so when others subjugate you, the only categories to be placed in are one of the two- you have value or you don’t have value. And these days, that’s decided for you.
Social media encourages people to think about what they don’t have because what they do have will never be good enough. Not only are we easy targets, we’re mindless consumers. If you see something you don’t have, buy it.
If you see something you may end up using to make your life easier, buy it, even though you know you won’t use it. If you see an Instagram model with a similar body type to yours, except she has huge tits, get a boob job. You’ll be more likable for it-literally.
We’re forced to care about meaningless shit, except now it’s not meaningless because everyone has made it matter. When something truly matters and has substantial value, you don’t think about replacing it because you’re overall content with it.
The modern world has captivated our minds; filling it with more and more nonsensical pursuits and if we can’t have what we think we want, it becomes an issue of concern. We live in our past hoping to find answers that will guide us toward a better future, never truly experiencing the present moment.
When was the last time you didn’t anticipate without expectations for something or someone? When was the last time you sat with your thoughts, observing them, rather than catching one, and ruminating over it, passing judgment? When was the last time you didn’t have something in mind you’d like to buy or think about what you lack rather than being grateful for what you do have?
The more distractions, the more complicated things become. We stay emotionally hungry, escaping and avoiding shitty feelings through self- indulgence. For a short period of time it feels good but fleeting moments of joy can be deceiving.
It’s not called living, if we’re in a permanent state of pity or anticipation. Sad about what’ll you never be, never have, and never deserve or waiting for what you don’t have, should have, and deserve. Both result in emptiness and ironically we’re all searching to achieve what we lack or improve what we have to feel better…to finally be happy, and stay that way- forever.
People search for happiness like playing a video game; once you beat the last level, you win. That’s not what happens. Sure, you may have beaten that particular game, but you’ll move on to another, and then another. Happiness isn’t a permanent mood you can achieve if you play your cards right.
Like all emotions, they’re fleeting and experienced in waves. That’s life. You don’t get to pick and choose which one you want to keep around, however, you can choose to ride the waves, enjoying the good as they come, while also accepting the bad.
I want more. What about you?
-Jessica Bruno LMHC